| Accept that family violence is more common than people like to
think. The odds that members of your congregation are experiencing
physical, emotional, or sexual abuse are statistically overwhelming.
Display brochures about family violence in the entrance and in the
restrooms where they can be picked up privately. Free brochures and
bookmarks have been developed by leaders of many faith communities and
are available through the Virginia Family Violence & Sexual Assault
Hotline (1.800.838.8238 v/tty).
Address family violence in newsletters, bulletin announcements,
religious education classes, sermons, and marriage-preparation
counseling/classes. It can be tremendously powerful if the leader of the
faith community speaks publicly (in a sermon, ___, etc.) condemning
abuse in the home.
Explore the topic of “healthy relationships” in youth education
programs. Bring in a speaker from your local Domestic Violence Program.
Build a relationship with your local Domestic Violence Program. Call
1.800.838.8238 (v/tty) or visit
www.vsdvalliance.org to
find out more about the Domestic Violence Program that serves your
community.
Explore the teachings of your faith tradition as they relate to
family violence. Religious teachings have sometimes been used to justify
abuse, but at their core most religions support safe and peaceful
families. Visit
www.vadv.org/faithhome.html to find out about resources that can
help you in this effort.
When abuse is disclosed, focus on establishing safety for the victim,
supporting the children, and holding the abuser accountable.
Take a stand on the leadership level. The governing body of the
congregation and the minister, rabbi, imam, or other faith leader can
set an example for the congregation by practicing non-violence,
addressing the subject of family violence frequently, and setting
policies that take this problem seriously.
Recognize October as Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Host a
special event or dedicate a service to the occasion.
Honor and listen to the women in your congregation. On Mother’s Day,
hold a moment of silence for the children who are motherless because of
domestic violence.
As you gain experience and confidence in violence prevention,
consider taking the lead with other congregations in your denomination
or faith. Find out what statements, if any, your religious leaders have
made on the issue and ask for more energy to be invested in ending
family violence. Encourage dialogue. |
